The dating world is notoriously hard to navigate, with a language all its own. It’s filled with hidden rules and regulations that none of us seem clued up on. Figuring out if our date is actually interested can be a skill all on its own, but what if you already have a mental illness that makes it difficult to connect...

Over the last year, I’ve seen a significant increase in the number of people in their early 20’s coming to see me. I see people of all ages, so there’s nothing new in seeing people of this age group, but the concern for me is the reason why they feel they need sex therapy. They’re seeking out professional help because...

People often say I am one of the most resilient people they know, given what I have experienced and that my own abuse spans over a length of 18 years. It is a nice sentiment, but day after day I realise how it’s not actually a character trait, it is a demand of trauma. I have to be resilient. I have to be resilient in...

When it comes to birth control, women are involved pretty early in their lives, when men are barely told what periods are. Education is quite unfair on the subject, and apart from “what are periods?”, “what are pills?”, and “what are condoms?”, youngsters are rarely explained every detail of the subject. Yet, birth...

When I was training to become a sex therapist, I wrote an essay on masturbation, only to discover that there was hardly any research on female masturbation. I got the impression that researchers didn’t think it was necessary to explore this topic because women just didn’t do that. How wrong they were! Historically,...

It’s very easy to believe that women are “too complicated to understand” – but even despite natural variations, some general patterns of pleasure exist and need to be acknowledged. One of the first sites attempting to demystify female pleasure and get people to reap the benefits is an interesting new platform called...

I heaved a sigh of relief when it was announced that sex and relationship education was to be made compulsory in schools. But before we start, let’s take a look at what they’re learning. I present to you two pamphlets: ‘4 Boys’ and ‘4 Girls’ – these were originally published in 2004, but are still distributed to schools...

Being LGBTQ+ feels somewhat like trying to navigate around binary black holes. LGBTQ+ identities are all about sex. Or non-heterosexual sexualities just don’t exist. These are the only two stories on offer. There is no space in between. Our elevation of sex in society means that sexuality has become the centre of our...

Sex should always be fun, so it can be off putting and even scary when pain replaces pleasure. However, pain isn’t something you should be ashamed of: statistics show that one in ten British women between the ages of 16-74 suffer from pain or as it’s medically known dyspareunia, according to BJOG. I think we’ve all...

When an interview opens with a cup of tea, and closes with a friendly hand job demonstration, you know you’re writing an article for Verbal Remedy. I absolutely love writing about genitals on the internet. Very few things make me happier, other than when my fuchsia decides it can be bothered to grow, or when I find a...