Category: Relationships

The dating world is notoriously hard to navigate, with a language all its own. It’s filled with hidden rules and regulations that none of us seem clued up on. Figuring out if our date is actually interested can be a skill all on its own, but what if you already have a mental illness that makes it difficult to connect...

With the current divorce rate at about 9.8% per 1000 married couples, according to Office for National Statistics, it’s no surprise that many of us will live with divorce at least once in our lives. I was knocked for six when I divorced from my husband. I didn’t know what I was meant to be doing with my life; all my...

The 50th anniversary of the “decriminalisation of homosexuality” has been met with pride and jubilation by many in the queer community, as well as respect for those who were never granted any freedom at all. It should be a moment of unity, but instead it’s a time fraught with tension for those overlooked. The focus on...

Over the last year, I’ve seen a significant increase in the number of people in their early 20’s coming to see me. I see people of all ages, so there’s nothing new in seeing people of this age group, but the concern for me is the reason why they feel they need sex therapy. They’re seeking out professional help because...

Being LGBTQ+ feels somewhat like trying to navigate around binary black holes. LGBTQ+ identities are all about sex. Or non-heterosexual sexualities just don’t exist. These are the only two stories on offer. There is no space in between. Our elevation of sex in society means that sexuality has become the centre of our...

In 2013, Dr Debby Herbenick gave a TED talk in Bloomington, Indiana, with the title ‘Making Sex Normal’. In short, she argued that sex should become a part of our conversation and the taboo surrounding it should be abandoned – naturally, I am on board with this! When something as fundamental as reproduction and sex is...

Abuse is a multifaceted issue, one which is never the same in any two situations, due to the complexity of human life. People stay in abusive relationships for many different reasons, many of which they cannot be held accountable for. Physical abuse rarely occurs without a certain degree of emotional abuse...

Hi you. Yes you. We matched on Tinder back in January. New year’s day to be precise. You told me about your crazy night and I told you about throwing up Bailey’s in my auntie’s bathroom. And you still weren’t put off. We’ve spoken every day since. We’ve talked about the places we want to go and the people we want to...

In January, the conservatives blocked plans for LGBT inclusive sex education in our schools. This reform would have made education on same sex relationships, sexual consent and abuse in relationships mandatory. A couple of weeks later Tory MP Philip Davis (accompanied by fellow back-benchers) spent four and a half...

As I sat in the beautiful bed, in the beautiful hotel, in a beautiful country on holiday, my beautiful marriage, to my beautiful husband, was revealed as holding a very ugly secret, a secret revealed by an accidental look at an undeleted porn video loaded on his phone. Pornography, lust and sex addiction entered my...