Category: Relationships

Being LGBTQ+ feels somewhat like trying to navigate around binary black holes. LGBTQ+ identities are all about sex. Or non-heterosexual sexualities just don’t exist. These are the only two stories on offer. There is no space in between. Our elevation of sex in society means that sexuality has become the centre of our...

In 2013, Dr Debby Herbenick gave a TED talk in Bloomington, Indiana, with the title ‘Making Sex Normal’. In short, she argued that sex should become a part of our conversation and the taboo surrounding it should be abandoned – naturally, I am on board with this! When something as fundamental as reproduction and sex is...

Abuse is a multifaceted issue, one which is never the same in any two situations, due to the complexity of human life. People stay in abusive relationships for many different reasons, many of which they cannot be held accountable for. Physical abuse rarely occurs without a certain degree of emotional abuse...

Hi you. Yes you. We matched on Tinder back in January. New year’s day to be precise. You told me about your crazy night and I told you about throwing up Bailey’s in my auntie’s bathroom. And you still weren’t put off. We’ve spoken every day since. We’ve talked about the places we want to go and the people we want to...

In January, the conservatives blocked plans for LGBT inclusive sex education in our schools. This reform would have made education on same sex relationships, sexual consent and abuse in relationships mandatory. A couple of weeks later Tory MP Philip Davis (accompanied by fellow back-benchers) spent four and a half...

As I sat in the beautiful bed, in the beautiful hotel, in a beautiful country on holiday, my beautiful marriage, to my beautiful husband, was revealed as holding a very ugly secret, a secret revealed by an accidental look at an undeleted porn video loaded on his phone. Pornography, lust and sex addiction entered my...

It was always her eyes, I think. Even when we were friends, I thought she had beautiful eyes. We look back at it now and think it should have been obvious to us both, but it is never obvious. This August, my parents went on holiday for a month to New Zealand to visit my brother, he’s been gone for two years and the...

It’s two in the morning and I’m holding her by the arms as she tries to push past me to get to the bathroom. The razor in her hand catches my attention every few seconds, as do the terrible things she says, but I can’t think about any of it too much – I’m exhausted. It’s been hours of this, who knows how many, and all I...

Shortly before my 18th birthday I met a long-haired, clever looking boy – let’s call him Mark. Mark was into drama and had been in a play with some of my friends. We got to know each other at a party, went on a couple of dates and began an extremely anti-climactic relationship of about 8 months. When I say...

When bundle of fun Roosh V cancelled his international meetups earlier this month, we all breathed – quite rightfully – a big sigh of relief. No one likes the idea of their city’s most cretinous inhabitants meeting underneath a central monument to discuss how rape should be legal or, at it’s least frightening (but still...