Category: Rape

Watching Oprah Winfrey giving her Golden Globes award speech with my daughters aged 18 and 13, I found myself feeling completely overwhelmed with the sense of change. Time’s up for the those people with advantage who will no longer have the luxury of knowing that their victims will not remain silent. Growing up in the...

Canadian author Margaret Atwood has become ubiquitous this year for many reasons, not least because the HBO adaptation of her classic piece The Handmaid’s Tale won eight Emmy awards, three Critics’ Choice Television Awards and two Golden Globes. However, underneath the accolades lies a worry among many of her most loyal...

On the 7th of January 2018, the Golden Globes took place in the United States. In attendance were hundreds of famous, and famous-adjacent, people, dressed in black as they participated in the Time’s Up initiative. This bothered me a lot. The fact that someone can wear a black outfit (that they probably didn’t pay for)...

  Warning: this post contains a description of a sexual assault I’m not usually one for getting involved in hyped up, trending, viral campaigns that are designed to create awareness or change. Wearing purple or blue or whatever, was never going to stop my dad from dying of cancer or help my friend who has just been...

Coerced consent (or sexual coercion) is when you convince or persuade someone to engage in a sexual activity they are not comfortable with. This could be achieved by using alcohol or drugs to lower a partner’s ability to be assertive, but can also be through emotionally manipulating, pressuring or threatening a...

People often say I am one of the most resilient people they know, given what I have experienced and that my own abuse spans over a length of 18 years. It is a nice sentiment, but day after day I realise how it’s not actually a character trait, it is a demand of trauma. I have to be resilient. I have to be resilient in...

It is a truth universally acknowledged that jokes about trigger warnings intend to mock the perceived ‘sensitivities’ of others: people have to be exaggerating, when they disclose triggers that only means they will feel slightly upset or frustrated or awkward if the subject arises, right? As a student living with...

Warning: this post contains reference and descriptions of suicide 13 Reasons Why – A Netflix original series that has brought bullying, rape and suicide into the limelight and got people talking. It hasn’t all been good talk; mental health professionals have uttered their concerns over the messages that the show may...

Abuse is a multifaceted issue, one which is never the same in any two situations, due to the complexity of human life. People stay in abusive relationships for many different reasons, many of which they cannot be held accountable for. Physical abuse rarely occurs without a certain degree of emotional abuse...

Reclaiming my sexuality and sensuality after years of incest from both my mother and father, alongside being trafficked in my teen years, has been quite the endeavour. However, contrary to uneducated belief, the only common factor between sexuality and trauma is the level of silencing they both endure. My abuse has...