My Child, My Baby, My Everything, You might wonder what’s the use of me writing to you, and to be honest I hope you do. I hope we communicated enough while you were growing up for you to never have to read this. I know I made mistakes – I will make mistakes from the minute you will be in my arms – but I hope a lack of...

I doubt very much that you remember me – it’s been 14 years, and you’ll have had hundreds of thousands of house visits since then. But I’ll remember you forever. Let’s refresh your memories – it’s Boxing Day 2003, and you’re called to a house in the early morning, perhaps around 8am. It’s light and crisp outside and...

People often tell me I’m inspirational and, because I’m such a fraud, I often let them. Sometimes, I protest and they think I’m being modest when I’m just being honest. More often, I accept their compliments about my stoicism and my cheery attitude, when in reality I have been up until 2 a.m. throwing myself a major...

‘Friends are the family we choose for ourselves’ It is this particular mantra that I’ve taken with me since leaving home, probably imprinted into my memory after staring at it on the bathroom wall since I was 4. Don’t get me wrong, I love my family down to each and every one of our delightful idiosyncrasies; however...

For a very long time, I did not consider anyone apart from my father and closest friend’s family. There are multiple reasons for this, the first being I was kept away from my father’s relatives by my narcissistic mother, whom I severed ties with after the deaths of my maternal grandparents, and a relative lack of...

‘Family Holidays’ such as Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter can be tough if your definition of ‘family’ is a bit complicated. Divorces, bereavements and estrangements can mean that even people you would love to sit in front of ‘Gavin and Stacey’ with can’t always be with you – and that’s hard sometimes. However,...

Warning: the content of this post may be upsetting to some readers   Just over a year and a half ago, I lost my father. I thought that the phrase ‘losing someone’ sounded silly. As though you’d misplaced them, and if you looked hard enough, you’d find them again. Before my father passed away, I’d not really encountered...

Family reunification for refugee families is covered by both UK and International law. However, severe and unfair restrictions on the process of reunification in the UK make it incredibly difficult for many refugees to be joined by their families once they are granted asylum. If a refugee wishes to bring their family...

For most people, graduation is a time of celebration and excitement, of new suits and new shoes, big graduation caps and gowns and those silly sashes that we all pretend to hate. There’s a part of me that is so excited for smiling ear to ear for photographs in front of university buildings that I didn’t even go in...

Most people looking after a loved one don’t see it as something they chose. It’s something they do out of love – and because of that (coupled with the fact that I was young and scared), I never called myself a carer until very recently. It seemed bizarre having a word for what I was doing, and I felt as if giving my...