Category: Consent

  Warning: this post contains a description of a sexual assault I’m not usually one for getting involved in hyped up, trending, viral campaigns that are designed to create awareness or change. Wearing purple or blue or whatever, was never going to stop my dad from dying of cancer or help my friend who has just been...

I was walking home at the end of a long week when I remembered that one of the boys I knew as a child had touched me without my consent. I say this nonchalantly because that’s exactly how it felt – a dull awakening, a dimmed bulb slowly brightening rather than a real ‘lightbulb moment’. When I got home I put my tea in the...

  What are we willing to compromise and why? It is not uncommon for people to find themselves engaged in swinging, for example, because they were too fearful to lose their partner if they didn’t. We need to be extremely self reflective and ask ourselves difficult questions such as our potential for jealousy or people...

Watching porn is no longer a secretive, solo act anymore (unless you want it to be) – but introducing it into your bedroom routine can be awkward at first. How do you bring it up – and how do you make sure it makes your sex sessions better, not worse? How do you check that your partner’s into the same weird shit you...

People often say I am one of the most resilient people they know, given what I have experienced and that my own abuse spans over a length of 18 years. It is a nice sentiment, but day after day I realise how it’s not actually a character trait, it is a demand of trauma. I have to be resilient. I have to be resilient in...

It is a truth universally acknowledged that jokes about trigger warnings intend to mock the perceived ‘sensitivities’ of others: people have to be exaggerating, when they disclose triggers that only means they will feel slightly upset or frustrated or awkward if the subject arises, right? As a student living with...

When an interview opens with a cup of tea, and closes with a friendly hand job demonstration, you know you’re writing an article for Verbal Remedy. I absolutely love writing about genitals on the internet. Very few things make me happier, other than when my fuchsia decides it can be bothered to grow, or when I find a...

Abuse is a multifaceted issue, one which is never the same in any two situations, due to the complexity of human life. People stay in abusive relationships for many different reasons, many of which they cannot be held accountable for. Physical abuse rarely occurs without a certain degree of emotional abuse...

Reclaiming my sexuality and sensuality after years of incest from both my mother and father, alongside being trafficked in my teen years, has been quite the endeavour. However, contrary to uneducated belief, the only common factor between sexuality and trauma is the level of silencing they both endure. My abuse has...

  Although the storyline does have its faults, I like the Fifty Shades of Grey films. There, I said it. Not because of the fact that Jamie Dornan was shirtless (well maybe a little bit), but because it made it a little bit more acceptable to be open about BDSM relationships. Before the books came out, it seemed like...